Rejection tends to produce people who are more anxious, more insecure, and often more hostile and aggressive towards others. Ultimately rejection is about access. Access to my time, access to my attention, access to my presence, access to my heart, my gentleness, my love and acceptance. If I reject you, it simply means that I close myself off to you so you can no longer have access to me, to my heart, my love, my presence or my time. And I think it wouldn’t be a sneaky, Jesus-y bait and switch from popular psychology to Biblical theology to say that what drives much if not most of our destructive and harmful behavior as human beings is an attempt to get back something that we have lost almost since the beginning of time. Access to our Heavenly Father’s love, presence and acceptance. The thing that we crave most deeply is to once again have access to our Heavenly Father, our Creator who made us to be most satisfied when we are in relationship with Him. Deep down we want what we lost. To know that the one who made us, whose opinion matters the most, has not rejected us but is seeking out the relationship with us that He created us for.
